I've had my fair share of rendezvous with virgins and clients who sought my help in finding their way to feeling comfortable around a woman.

Men and intimacy. Some had not experienced it in a long time, while others were emerging from complicated relationships, navigating divorce, or rebuilding their confidence. Many needed to relearn the art of connection—how to flirt, approach, touch, and give pleasure. How to move with ease around a woman. How to be a gentleman in today’s complex and evolving dating world.

Not every story is the same, but these men often share a common struggle: they are searching for something missing in their lives. And those who fit into one of these categories may find it difficult to contact a companion, held back by fear of judgment or shame.

Despite the experience I've gathered as a companion, every time I meet someone new, it feels like a first. It’s like starting a new book—you may have an idea of what to expect, but only by reading each chapter do you truly understand the story. I approach each lover (client) as an individual. There is no formula, no standard interaction, because we, as humans, are deeply complex creatures.

These encounters teach me something new about myself, my work, and the intricacies of relationships. My natural approach to such dates stems from my background, my curiosity, and my view of intimacy—far more than just my professional experience as a companion. This doesn’t mean I consider myself an expert or claim to hold a PhD on the subject. Instead, I see it as a mutual exchange, a dance where I learn just as much as I give.

The sex work industry is a universe of its own, full of diverse niches and a clientele spanning all walks of life. Navigating this world can feel overwhelming, especially for first-timers. Many start researching but get lost along the way, distracted or unsure of what they truly seek.

Proper research is essential when looking for the right provider. But to find the one who truly aligns with you, you must first ask yourself the right questions.

What kind of mind exists behind that carefully curated image? Do we speak the same language when it comes to intimacy? Am I looking for a fleeting encounter, or do I crave something deeper? Does what she or he says resonate with me?

This is an important lesson: seek first to understand before seeking to be understood.

And for those reading this, let me emphasize: size has nothing to do with skill when it comes to building a genuine connection.

For me, what matters most is chemistry and mutual respect. After all, an intimate moment should be as pleasurable as it is fulfilling. A big penis or long stamina isn’t what creates a lasting impression—confidence, communication, and openness do. The willingness to explore new experiences often leads to uncharted depths of pleasure.

It all starts with transparency. An open and honest conversation adds more to an encounter than inches ever could.

So when you gather the courage to take that first step, be open about your desires. Be honest with the provider you choose to contact—this level of openness helps ensure the experience is right for both of you.

Sharing your story and expectations gives the provider the insight they need to determine whether they can meet your needs. And remember, if a provider declines, it’s not a reflection of your worth—it’s simply about compatibility.

I wish you the best of luck in finding the perfect companion to make your secret dreams come true.

Warmly,Lily*